Below is a blog written by my friend, Jamie Sasien. I know you’ll be blessed. I look forward to hosting other guest bloggers on my site so stay tuned!
As a homeschooling mom of three children I’m always learning. My girls and I have been studying insects and when we got to the butterflies we watched some videos on the Monarch. Did you know that a Monarch butterfly will travel from the north of America and Canada all the way to Southern California or the middle of Mexico each fall? This is known as the flight of the Monarch. It got me thinking to my original reason for wanting to write years ago. God gave me this idea that we as parents are on a journey in raising our children to take the next step of their life. Our children may not go through a full metamorphosis like the butterfly, but it sometimes feels like it.
So as I was thinking about the butterfly, it got me thinking of our lives with kids. Butterfly’s mate while in Mexico and then the females in spring begin their long journey back north, where they lay their eggs. They know that they need to lay their eggs specifically on milkweed, as this is what the baby caterpillars will eat once they are born. Like our little ones, the first thing they need is food. Remember those late nights nursing and making sure our little ones had plenty to eat. Our babies don’t grow as quickly as these small caterpillars but like the caterpillar in this stage, all they do is eat and sleep.
The next stage is the pupa stage. This is the time when they undergo huge transformations. For us this stage begins in the pre-k years and continues through the teen years. These years our children are going through the most transformation. These can be the hardest of years and the most enjoyable. Then one day they begin to emerge, they begin to crawl out of those years. They first need to dry their wings before they can take their first flight. I think of this as a time usually when they are beginning to drive and get their first job.
What happens last is the most amazing step. The steps when we let them go. We let them fly. They may not go 2,000 miles away, but it may seem like it when you drop them off to school or send them away to boot camp. This is what we have been planning for, preparing them for, molding them into. Thankfully our process isn’t as short as the butterfly, but it feels as if it was just yesterday that we left one stage and entered the next. I’m not sure what stage of parenting you are in, but God is in all of it. He has told us this was his plan when he said, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
God knows that our job is to prepare them for where they are going. Each stage is a step in letting go. We let go with everything we do with our children.
- We let go when we wean from nursing.
- We let go so they can take that first step.
- We let go when they sleep through the night.
- We let go when we send them to school.
- We let go when they begin to read on their own.
- We let go when they can make their own breakfast, lunch or dinner.
- We let go when they can do their own laundry.
- We let go when they begin to drive.
- We let go…… (You fill in the blank.)
- What steps have you taken in letting go?
- Have you even noticed your letting them go each step of the way?
- How are you training your children?
- What example are you giving them?
- What steps do you need God’s help in?
- Are you praying over them during these steps?
You are taking these steps each day, week, year in letting your babies fly. Your babies are to take their journey, to begin their life. However, you have a job now at the stage you are in. It doesn’t matter what mistakes you have made in the past. You can begin again fresh today. Remember, “With God, all things are possible.” Your part is in training your children, molding them, praying for them. They may buck and balk along the way, but what you have done, raising them in the Lord, will come to pass. Trust the Lord. Trust the process. God will never let you down, especially when it comes to your children, His children.
My prayer for you:
May God encourage you today. Know God is pleased with you and He will guide you in raising your children. I pray that God would give you wisdom and knowledge in raising your children. I pray that He would love them through you and that your children would come to know the Lord because of your teaching and example. May God bless you in this journey and may you enjoy the process. I pray you will have God’s perfect peace letting your children fly into the plans He has for them. Amen
About the author of this post: Jamie Sasien is a homeschooling mom of three ages 13, 12, and 8. She is also married to her best friend of 16 years. She writes on a blog: One Day to the Next, where she shares about her love of parenting, marriage, and Jesus.